Dear Family Resource,
I am a caregiver working with a different agency caring for a resistant elderly gentleman. He’s recently become incontinent and needs to wear something like Depends. I asked his son to buy some, but he doesn’t want to admit that his Dad has a problem. He asked his dad if he wanted to wear Depends (he actually said “diapers”). Well, of course, his dad said “NO.” Now my client is angry at me for telling his son about the incontinence. Now when he’s wet, he’s trying to hide it and won’t let me help him change. If you have a suggestion for me I’m willing to try it; but if he won’t wear the Depends, I’m going to quit.
~ Fed Up Caregiver
- Make an appointment with his primary physician to see if there is a preventable cause.
- Limit fluids before bed.
- Go to the bathroom every few hours even if he doesn’t feel the urge to urinate.
- Check out the different types of men’s protective underwear that can absorb any drips and keep him odor-free.
The two of you can go online to see what products are available that he is willing to try.
It would be great if you can have this same conversation with your client’s son and are able to give the son information about incontinence. In addition, here’s a great website www.nafc.org.
~ Family Resource