Dear Sheila: Hospice or Home?

Sheila McKannay


20 April, 2016

Dear Sheila, I’ve been the primary caregiver for my husband who is losing his five year fight against cancer. My husband’s doctor said he has only a month or two to live, and that soon he’ll need to go to a hospice where they have medical equipment like an...

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Dear Sheila: Too Much of a Good Thing

Sheila McKannay


23 March, 2016

Dear Sheila, I think my mom’s caregiver is too attached to her. We hired Gail six years ago to help my parents a few days a week. After dad died Gail started coming daily. My mom doesn’t drive and Gail takes her to appointments, shopping, out to lunch, etc....

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Dear Sheila: Time to Switch Doctors?

Sheila McKannay


20 January, 2016

Dear Sheila, My 83-year-old mother has been seeing the same doctor for over 40 years. He’s been there for her through several illnesses and she’s very loyal to him. The problem is the doctor is nearly as old as mom and my impression is he’s not kept up with...

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Dear Sheila: Too Many Phone Calls

Sheila McKannay


18 November, 2015

Dear Sheila, My mom is divorced, healthy and, since I moved away for grad school a year ago, lives alone. The problem is she’s started calling me several times a day about little things. She’s only 65 so she’s not exactly old, but she’s really changed. Sometimes she calls...

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Dear Sheila: Is It Collecting or Is It Hoarding?

Sheila McKannay


21 October, 2015

Dear Sheila, My mom was always a collector. Salt and pepper shakers, dolls, Christmas decorations, you get the picture. When I was a kid she displayed her collections or stored them in the garage but recently her “collecting” has exploded. From the front door, I can see mail, stacks...

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Dear Sheila: An Unhealthy Imagination

Sheila McKannay


21 August, 2015

Dear Sheila, When it comes to their health, my 84-year-old mom and her 79-year-old sister are polar opposites. My mom acts like everything is fine and won’t tell anyone when she’s sick or in pain. If I ask she’ll say there’s nothing wrong, but in the last year I’ve...

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Dear Sheila: Who Will Care For Me?

Sheila McKannay


15 July, 2015

Dear Sheila, I’m not married and I don’t have children. My mother took care of my dad until he died of lung cancer at age 90. Now my mom is 87, has dementia, and even though she’s living in a nearby nursing home, I feel like I’m taking care...

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Dear Sheila: At the End of my Rope

Sheila McKannay


24 June, 2015

Dear Sheila, Where do I start?  Two years ago I had a busy, fulfilling life. We had retired and were looking forward to downsizing, traveling, and building a great new life together as active retirees. Then came the stroke.  Jerry spent 6 weeks in a rehab center and then...

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