Dear Sheila: Bickering Siblings

Sheila McKannay


18 April, 2017

Dear Sheila, I have one sibling and we both live across the country from our parents. Mom is 87 and dad is 90 years old. For years my brother and I have had the same argument; I say mom and dad need help to stay safely in their home...

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Dear Sheila: A Second Set of Ears

Sheila McKannay


17 March, 2017

Dear Sheila, My parents still live in their own home with help from a caregiver 6 hours a day. They each have health problems and their caregiver drives them to doctor appointments at least 2-3 times per month. The problem is I can’t get good, clear answers from either...

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Dear Sheila: Safety First

Sheila McKannay


20 February, 2017

Dear Sheila, My wife and I, together with my brother and his wife, will be traveling out of town to visit our mom and celebrate her 80th birthday. While we’re there we plan to take a close look at her home to see what we can do to make...

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Dear Sheila: Seeking Friendships

Sheila McKannay


20 January, 2017

Dear Sheila, Mom is 89, lives alone, and has really slowed down. She used to be socially active but many of her friends have passed and she spends a lot of time alone. I take her shopping and to the doctor but she says she’s lonely and wants to...

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Dear Sheila: Nothing to Live For

Sheila McKannay


22 November, 2016

Dear Sheila, My 92-year-old mother lives in the Alzheimer’s unit of a long-term care facility. I visit her about twice a week and she still knows who I am, but every time I arrive she tells me that she hasn’t seen me for years. She also says things like,...

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Dear Sheila: Overworked Caregiver

Sheila McKannay


19 October, 2016

Dear Sheila, Four years ago my husband died after a long illness. I had been his caregiver and in addition to just missing him, I found that being alone with no one to care for was hard. About 9 months after he died I saw an ad for a...

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Dear Sheila: You’re Not the Boss of Me

Sheila McKannay


28 September, 2016

Dear Sheila, For the last six months, I’ve been the full-time caregiver for a lovely lady. Her daughter hired me while she was overseas and needed someone to take charge and that’s exactly what I’m good at. I’m a CNA and I know how to do my job. The...

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Dear Sheila: Life After Driving

Sheila McKannay


19 August, 2016

Dear Sheila, My 82-year-old widowed father recently agreed to give up driving and now he’s acting like his life is over. He hates asking for help and being dependent on others for rides, so he’s choosing to stay home all the time. He was never that active but he...

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Dear Sheila: Only Daughter Left

Sheila McKannay


20 July, 2016

Dear Sheila, When my dad was diagnosed with Alzheimer’s type dementia, my two sisters and I lived near my father and we decided to provide the care needed by splitting the time and duties evenly. That worked for two years, then my dad’s dementia started to get worse and...

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Dear Sheila: Mysterious Bruises

Sheila McKannay


21 June, 2016

Dear Sheila, My grandpa broke his hip. He was in the hospital but now he’s at a really nice rehabilitation place. I visit him nearly every day after school. Today I was helping him take off his sweater and I saw bruises on his upper arms. I asked him...

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