Dear Sheila: An Unhealthy Imagination

Sheila McKannay


21 August, 2015

Dear Sheila, When it comes to their health, my 84-year-old mom and her 79-year-old sister are polar opposites. My mom acts like everything is fine and won’t tell anyone when she’s sick or in pain. If I ask she’ll say there’s nothing wrong, but in the last year I’ve...

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Dear Sheila: Who Will Care For Me?

Sheila McKannay


15 July, 2015

Dear Sheila, I’m not married and I don’t have children. My mother took care of my dad until he died of lung cancer at age 90. Now my mom is 87, has dementia, and even though she’s living in a nearby nursing home, I feel like I’m taking care...

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Dear Sheila: At the End of my Rope

Sheila McKannay


24 June, 2015

Dear Sheila, Where do I start?  Two years ago I had a busy, fulfilling life. We had retired and were looking forward to downsizing, traveling, and building a great new life together as active retirees. Then came the stroke.  Jerry spent 6 weeks in a rehab center and then...

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Dear Sheila: Too Close for Comfort

Sheila McKannay


20 May, 2015

Dear Sheila, I’m the youngest of 3 children and my 84-year-old mother (who’s in pretty good health and still drives) has decided to move close to me so I can “take care of her.” My 2 siblings have no relationship with her (she was verbally abusive and not really...

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Dear Sheila: Grandma Needs Tough Love

Sheila McKannay


18 March, 2015

Dear Sheila, My 82-year-old grandmother fell and broke her hip and after surgery was in a rehab center for 3 weeks. Her physical therapist told her it was important that she walk every day and also gave her exercises to do at home. The problem is grandma refuses to...

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Dear Sheila: Post Surgery Help-at-Home

Sheila McKannay


19 February, 2015

Dear Sheila, I’m a 78-year-old woman scheduled to have knee replacement surgery in 6 weeks. I live alone so I need to do some advanced planning for when I return home. Following the surgery, I’ll be in a rehabilitation center for a period of time (I’m not sure for...

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Dear Sheila: A Time To Grieve

Sheila McKannay


21 January, 2015

Dear Sheila, My mom died almost a year ago. She was sick for 3 years and dad took an early retirement to stay home and care for her. Now that she’s gone, it’s like the life has gone right out of him. He’s so sad and doesn’t want to...

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Dear Sheila: Time to Face Facts

Sheila McKannay


20 November, 2014

Dear Sheila, My husband’s parents have been married for 60 years, live together in a small apartment and are totally devoted to each other. Over the last few years we’ve noticed my mother-in-law having some memory problems which have gotten progressively worse over the last year. If that’s not...

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Dear Sheila: Living With a Night Owl

Sheila McKannay


21 October, 2014

Dear Sheila, Six months ago my mother-in-law moved in with us. Shopping and housekeeping had become too much for her to manage, plus she no longer drives. It was hard for her to leave her home and community of 30 years but it’s mostly worked out ok. Our main...

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Dear Sheila: Sitting on a Gold Mine

Sheila McKannay


19 September, 2014

Dear Sheila, My mom has mid-stage dementia. Her sister was living with her, but two months ago she died and I had to act fast to make sure mom’s care was continued. She didn’t want to go, but I moved her to an assisted living facility and told her...

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