Dear Sheila: Time to Switch Doctors?

Sheila McKannay


20 January, 2016

Dear Sheila, My 83-year-old mother has been seeing the same doctor for over 40 years. He’s been there for her through several illnesses and she’s very loyal to him. The problem is the doctor is nearly as old as mom and my impression is he’s not kept up with...

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Dear Sheila: Too Many Phone Calls

Sheila McKannay


18 November, 2015

Dear Sheila, My mom is divorced, healthy and, since I moved away for grad school a year ago, lives alone. The problem is she’s started calling me several times a day about little things. She’s only 65 so she’s not exactly old, but she’s really changed. Sometimes she calls...

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Dear Sheila: Is It Collecting or Is It Hoarding?

Sheila McKannay


21 October, 2015

Dear Sheila, My mom was always a collector. Salt and pepper shakers, dolls, Christmas decorations, you get the picture. When I was a kid she displayed her collections or stored them in the garage but recently her “collecting” has exploded. From the front door, I can see mail, stacks...

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Dear Sheila: An Unhealthy Imagination

Sheila McKannay


21 August, 2015

Dear Sheila, When it comes to their health, my 84-year-old mom and her 79-year-old sister are polar opposites. My mom acts like everything is fine and won’t tell anyone when she’s sick or in pain. If I ask she’ll say there’s nothing wrong, but in the last year I’ve...

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Dear Sheila: Who Will Care For Me?

Sheila McKannay


15 July, 2015

Dear Sheila, I’m not married and I don’t have children. My mother took care of my dad until he died of lung cancer at age 90. Now my mom is 87, has dementia, and even though she’s living in a nearby nursing home, I feel like I’m taking care...

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Dear Sheila: At the End of my Rope

Sheila McKannay


24 June, 2015

Dear Sheila, Where do I start?  Two years ago I had a busy, fulfilling life. We had retired and were looking forward to downsizing, traveling, and building a great new life together as active retirees. Then came the stroke.  Jerry spent 6 weeks in a rehab center and then...

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Dear Sheila: Too Close for Comfort

Sheila McKannay


20 May, 2015

Dear Sheila, I’m the youngest of 3 children and my 84-year-old mother (who’s in pretty good health and still drives) has decided to move close to me so I can “take care of her.” My 2 siblings have no relationship with her (she was verbally abusive and not really...

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Dear Sheila: Grandma Needs Tough Love

Sheila McKannay


18 March, 2015

Dear Sheila, My 82-year-old grandmother fell and broke her hip and after surgery was in a rehab center for 3 weeks. Her physical therapist told her it was important that she walk every day and also gave her exercises to do at home. The problem is grandma refuses to...

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Dear Sheila: Post Surgery Help-at-Home

Sheila McKannay


19 February, 2015

Dear Sheila, I’m a 78-year-old woman scheduled to have knee replacement surgery in 6 weeks. I live alone so I need to do some advanced planning for when I return home. Following the surgery, I’ll be in a rehabilitation center for a period of time (I’m not sure for...

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