Dear Sheila: Nothing to Live For

Sheila McKannay


22 November, 2016

Dear Sheila, My 92-year-old mother lives in the Alzheimer’s unit of a long-term care facility. I visit her about twice a week and she still knows who I am, but every time I arrive she tells me that she hasn’t seen me for years. She also says things like,...

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Dear Sheila: Overworked Caregiver

Sheila McKannay


19 October, 2016

Dear Sheila, Four years ago my husband died after a long illness. I had been his caregiver and in addition to just missing him, I found that being alone with no one to care for was hard. About 9 months after he died I saw an ad for a...

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Dear Sheila: You’re Not the Boss of Me

Sheila McKannay


28 September, 2016

Dear Sheila, For the last six months, I’ve been the full-time caregiver for a lovely lady. Her daughter hired me while she was overseas and needed someone to take charge and that’s exactly what I’m good at. I’m a CNA and I know how to do my job. The...

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Dear Sheila: Life After Driving

Sheila McKannay


19 August, 2016

Dear Sheila, My 82-year-old widowed father recently agreed to give up driving and now he’s acting like his life is over. He hates asking for help and being dependent on others for rides, so he’s choosing to stay home all the time. He was never that active but he...

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Dear Sheila: Only Daughter Left

Sheila McKannay


20 July, 2016

Dear Sheila, When my dad was diagnosed with Alzheimer’s type dementia, my two sisters and I lived near my father and we decided to provide the care needed by splitting the time and duties evenly. That worked for two years, then my dad’s dementia started to get worse and...

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Dear Sheila: Mysterious Bruises

Sheila McKannay


21 June, 2016

Dear Sheila, My grandpa broke his hip. He was in the hospital but now he’s at a really nice rehabilitation place. I visit him nearly every day after school. Today I was helping him take off his sweater and I saw bruises on his upper arms. I asked him...

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Good Mornings ― Bad Nights

Sheila McKannay


20 May, 2016

Dear Sheila, My 80-year-old mother has early stage Alzheimer’s disease. She’s doing pretty well on her own but she doesn’t cook or drive anymore for safety reasons. I stop by to see her every day on the way to my full-time job, get her breakfast and lunch, and then...

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Dear Sheila: Hospice or Home?

Sheila McKannay


20 April, 2016

Dear Sheila, I’ve been the primary caregiver for my husband who is losing his five year fight against cancer. My husband’s doctor said he has only a month or two to live, and that soon he’ll need to go to a hospice where they have medical equipment like an...

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Dear Sheila: Too Much of a Good Thing

Sheila McKannay


23 March, 2016

Dear Sheila, I think my mom’s caregiver is too attached to her. We hired Gail six years ago to help my parents a few days a week. After dad died Gail started coming daily. My mom doesn’t drive and Gail takes her to appointments, shopping, out to lunch, etc....

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