Dear Sheila: Only Daughter Left

Sheila McKannay


20 July, 2016

Dear Sheila, When my dad was diagnosed with Alzheimer’s type dementia, my two sisters and I lived near my father and we decided to provide the care needed by splitting the time and duties evenly. That worked for two years, then my dad’s dementia started to get worse and...

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Dear Sheila: Mysterious Bruises

Sheila McKannay


21 June, 2016

Dear Sheila, My grandpa broke his hip. He was in the hospital but now he’s at a really nice rehabilitation place. I visit him nearly every day after school. Today I was helping him take off his sweater and I saw bruises on his upper arms. I asked him...

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Good Mornings ― Bad Nights

Sheila McKannay


20 May, 2016

Dear Sheila, My 80-year-old mother has early stage Alzheimer’s disease. She’s doing pretty well on her own but she doesn’t cook or drive anymore for safety reasons. I stop by to see her every day on the way to my full-time job, get her breakfast and lunch, and then...

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Dear Sheila: Hospice or Home?

Sheila McKannay


20 April, 2016

Dear Sheila, I’ve been the primary caregiver for my husband who is losing his five year fight against cancer. My husband’s doctor said he has only a month or two to live, and that soon he’ll need to go to a hospice where they have medical equipment like an...

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Dear Sheila: Too Much of a Good Thing

Sheila McKannay


23 March, 2016

Dear Sheila, I think my mom’s caregiver is too attached to her. We hired Gail six years ago to help my parents a few days a week. After dad died Gail started coming daily. My mom doesn’t drive and Gail takes her to appointments, shopping, out to lunch, etc....

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Dear Sheila: Time to Switch Doctors?

Sheila McKannay


20 January, 2016

Dear Sheila, My 83-year-old mother has been seeing the same doctor for over 40 years. He’s been there for her through several illnesses and she’s very loyal to him. The problem is the doctor is nearly as old as mom and my impression is he’s not kept up with...

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Dear Sheila: Too Many Phone Calls

Sheila McKannay


18 November, 2015

Dear Sheila, My mom is divorced, healthy and, since I moved away for grad school a year ago, lives alone. The problem is she’s started calling me several times a day about little things. She’s only 65 so she’s not exactly old, but she’s really changed. Sometimes she calls...

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Dear Sheila: Is It Collecting or Is It Hoarding?

Sheila McKannay


21 October, 2015

Dear Sheila, My mom was always a collector. Salt and pepper shakers, dolls, Christmas decorations, you get the picture. When I was a kid she displayed her collections or stored them in the garage but recently her “collecting” has exploded. From the front door, I can see mail, stacks...

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