Dear Sheila: When a Devoted Spouse Dies

Sheila McKannay


25 January, 2018

Dear Sheila, My parents live in a retirement community. My dad has terminal cancer and is under hospice care and I’m worried about how my mom will manage once he passes. They were never very social and had no hobbies or activities. They were devoted to each other and...

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Dear Sheila: Thinking Ahead

Sheila McKannay


15 December, 2017

Dear Sheila, A recent case of the flu turned into pneumonia and my mother had to be hospitalized. She went in with a treatable illness but once there things actually got worse. She was agitated and hallucinating, and even tried to pull the IV lines out of her arm....

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Dear Sheila: Dreading the Future

Sheila McKannay


24 October, 2017

Dear Sheila, My dad has Parkinson’s disease. He lives with us and can still get around with a walker, but he’s definitely gotten shakier and the tremors have gotten worse. We’ve enjoyed having him here but I’m dreading the time when he can no longer walk and will need...

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Dear Sheila: Needing Help Following Surgery

Sheila McKannay


27 September, 2017

Dear Sheila, I know people use home care agencies to find caregivers for the elderly, but do they also work with people who just need temporary help, like after surgery? I am 65 years old and in generally good health, but in a few months will be having surgery...

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Dear Sheila: Senior Roommates

Sheila McKannay


22 August, 2017

Dear Sheila, For the last 40 years, my mom has met weekly with a group of friends to play bridge and socialize. They started with 8 women but over the last several years 3 have died. The group has been friends through raising children, divorces, deaths of spouses, and...

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Dear Sheila: 90-Year-Old Romeo

Sheila McKannay


23 May, 2017

Dear Sheila, My dad was once a reserved professor but now he has dementia and has become flirtatious and inappropriate. When I take him for a walk or to a restaurant he waves and tries to talk with all the women. He’ll call out, “Sweetheart, come over here.” They’ll...

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Dear Sheila: Bickering Siblings

Sheila McKannay


18 April, 2017

Dear Sheila, I have one sibling and we both live across the country from our parents. Mom is 87 and dad is 90 years old. For years my brother and I have had the same argument; I say mom and dad need help to stay safely in their home...

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Dear Sheila: A Second Set of Ears

Sheila McKannay


17 March, 2017

Dear Sheila, My parents still live in their own home with help from a caregiver 6 hours a day. They each have health problems and their caregiver drives them to doctor appointments at least 2-3 times per month. The problem is I can’t get good, clear answers from either...

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